Never be afraid to fall apart because it is an opportunity to rebuild yourself the way you wish you had been all along.
Avengers’ Tower headcanon: Thor and Steve get blamed for a number of different microwaves breaking due to metal utensils and aluminum foil being put inside.
It’s about three months before everyone finds out that every single one of those instances was in fact Clint’s fault.
My Least Favorite Trope (and this post will include spoilers for The Lego Movie, Guardians of the Galaxy, The Matrix, Western Civilization, and—cod help me—Bulletproof Monk*.) is the thing where there’s an awesome, smart, wonderful, powerful female character who by all rights ought to be the Chosen One and the hero of the movie, who is tasked with taking care of some generally ineffectual male character who is, for reasons of wish fulfillment, actually the person the film focuses on. She mentors him, she teaches him, and she inevitably becomes his girlfriend… and he gets the job she wanted: he gets to be the Chosen One even though she’s obviously far more qualified. And all he has to do to get it and deserve it is Man Up and Take Responsibility.
And that’s it. Every god-damned time. The mere fact of naming the films above and naming the trope gives away the entire plot and character arc of every single movie.
Meanwhile, she will be celebrated and trumpeted as a Strong Female Character by fans with low standards who mostly just want you to get outta the way of their squee, and interpret your complaints about the way she was handled in terms of writing and general narrative positioning as somehow being attacks on the character herself (and this will somehow be as uncharitable and cruel as if you did it to a physical person in the same room, and possibly spun as sexist if they feel threatened by the implication that maybe their favorite hot media property has issues around that).